Warm memories , warm summer

We have had a great summer.  Full of laid back fun at home , and two family trips.  One to Greenview Aviaries and the other to Storybook Gardens.  I'm happy that our kids have reached an age where we can travel a bit more.  We even stayed overnight at my sisters house with success!  I'm also glad we have decided to keep the vacations local.  A week long camping trip or a long drive to a cottage or an expensive trip to Florida all seem more like nice packages of stress/exhaustion rather then vacations.  Next year may be different, but we plan according to our kids' state of craziness. The kids have had lots of fun playing at parks, splash pads, and beaches.  Nathan has tried to keep up a "park count" where he labels all the parks with numbers.  I think he is up to 5 or 6, but I'm not sure if that is an accurate count :).  Next summer I hope to put the older two at least in swimming lessons.  They love the beach, but they make us nervous frantically splashing around as soon as they loose their footing...if they could just remember to stand up...  

Nathan lost his first tooth - naturally!  He now has two bottom teeth missing. Unfortunately I think he brushed it out and it fell down the sink drain. My husband being the awesome father he is even took apart the pipes looking for the missing tooth, but we never found it :(.  I think he may have a loose one on the top as well.  He will be starting grade 1 in a few weeks.  Sometimes I think I get into a rut where I treat all the kids the same (which usually works - they are all very close in age) , but then I'm faced with things like Nathan turning 6 soon and heading to grade one! Its exciting to see them grow up!  I'm so proud of Nathan, and all he has really had to do was grow and learn things. Mark and I left the kids with my mom to go on a shopping trip.  I got a hug from Nathan and a hug and a kiss from Sarah.  Nathan looked at me and said with a smile " I don't like kisses", then he and Sarah returned to their game of "acrobats" on the couch (involving a series of flips/somersaults and other odd positions).    

The other day I saw Abby and Hannah reading books to each other - neither one making any sense, but it made me smile on the inside (and probably the outside).  Sometimes they sit watching TV holding each others hands , sucking on fingers and thumbs (usually when they are tired). Other times Hannah is pulling out Abby's hair or stealing toys.  Hannah is picking up more and more words.  She picks up words that she hears often like "GO AWAY!....STOP IT!....WHY?".  I heard her unload all three in succession when in some sort of confrontation with Nathan and Sarah.  For a moment I felt a little sad that she learned these words first , but a few minutes later I remember why she knows those words so well.  I hope she won't be scarred by our response to her industrious destructive tendencies. I have however remembered to praise her for things like throwing away garbage and not running away yelling "NO!" when I need to change her diaper (she learned that one from Abby) or saying "Sorry" when she attacks her sister.

The summer remains as a warm comforting memory.  It pleases me to know that the kids will start to remember summers like this.  They remember Green View Aviaries from last year and they will remember Story book gardens next year.  I love my family so much :)

Appropriately exhausted after a family trip  

 

Out of Order

One morning I told Nathan to get dressed.  He obediently walked in his room and started to pull down his pajama pants , but then he noticed that the Peter Rabbit books were out of order.  I think there might be at least 15 of them....and he stood there half naked (pants around his ankles) putting the books in order again.  He also gave them little voices and had conversations with them.  He then walked (rather trudged) out of his room completely forgetting that he was getting dressed (or that his pj pants were still around his ankles).  Nathan has got a lot better at listening and obeying - he no longer fights me when getting ready for school,  he mostly gets off the computer without fussing and he even decided a day this month where we would cut his hair (never a pleasurable experience).

Sarah is an amazing little girl.  More and more I can see her having fun at school all day.  She will be going this fall.  Sometimes I make Sarah a little book, she draws the pictures and I write down the story for her.  The stories have usually been focused  on what she calls "the hiker family" (a family that lives next to a mountain and does a lot of hiking) but recently she wanted to write a story about Fluttershy and Rarity going to jail (my little pony characters).  Sarah loves drama and inspiring stories.  What would normally disinterest Nathan and scare Abby, Sarah likes.  Recently she watched the Disney movie "Spirit".  Most movies made about horses are sad/traumatizing and this one was no exception , but she has asked several times now to watch it again. She does complain of bad dreams every so often so sometimes I wonder if she absorbs too much drama.  Sarah is not lazy but she is a bit of a princess.  If we go for a walk , she gets tired first.  I think about going to Pt. Pelee canoeing when they get bigger and I know Sarah will be the one in the middle of the canoe relaxing :).  She loves wearing pretty dresses and getting me to braid her hair. Sarah and Abby seem to enjoy doing things themselves more and more. Nathan on the other hand .... I asked him why he wouldn't wash himself in the tub one night.  Could he not do it?  Or was he just being lazy?  He paused for a few seconds and looked at me and said "I'm just lazy".

Abby is being a three year old currently.  I have to remember that sometimes.  I feel like calling her "opposite Abby".  It seems like everything I try to get her to do she does the opposite or runs away or ignores me.  As frustrating as that is , Abby's joyful attitude /noise usually makes me smile.  Abby still sings ... a lot.  She made up a song titled "I'm not Scared".  It goes like this "I'm not scarrrrred!" It has a refrain and sometimes includes things she is apparently not afraid of like monsters.  Maybe someday she will include flies in the song.  Abby has decided that she is afraid of flies this summer- she really doesn't like them landing on her head and wears a Dora hat when she notices them flying around.  Abby also sings her interpretation of "Let it Go".  She sings "Let it Gooo, let it go! (inaudible jumble of words) inside!".  We get the let it go song in our heads sometimes , but getting Abby's version stuck in your head is a little worse :).  She likes going outside with Sarah on "adventures".  They look at bugs, pick flowers in the garden, and slosh around in what ever puddles happen to be leftover from the last rainfall.  They like going outside in the rain as well.  

Hannah has accelerated her craziness if that is possible ,,, but it must be , because she IS more crazy.  She no longer walks anywhere, she always runs or skips or dances.  She has figured out how to take off her clothing and does so everyday.  She will be turning 2 in a few weeks and I was at a loss as to what to put on her wish list.  Hannah mostly tries to either destroy things or take things away from people hoping they will chase her to get them back.  She throws things, runs into walls (or everything else), has fallen off of everything (except the top bunk of the bunk beds- but she is working on that), she tries to escape from the house and run down the street (we have to lock her in), she bites and eats everything she gets her hands on (including us) and attacks her siblings (sometimes viciously). She is starting to count before she can talk and loves to have books read to her (often reading them to herself as well).  She does all of that with a big smile, lots of laughter and an amazing amount of energy.  Life would surely be more dull without Hannah around :)

Every time I get around to writing one of these things I remember how much God has blessed me.  :)

Abby's "fly hat" 

two animals wanting in  

 

Hannah the Barbarian

I remember all the nicknames we used to call our babies.  Nathan was "Thunder-butt" - he had some gas issues.  Sarah was "Jabba the Fuss".  I think she cried the most out of all of them.  Abby was "Abbzilla or Abbalicious" kind of like Jekyll and Hyde.  Hannah did not have one until recently.  Mark had been playing a game that was similar to "Final Fantasy" and when he named his characters he named them after the kids.  Hannah turned out to be a "barbarian" on the game and it matched her so perfectly it has become her nickname.

Hannah has upgraded herself with learning how to walk.  Sometimes I have to run to chase her, and I need to chase her because she always grabs something she knows she is not allowed to have and runs away.  Just this afternoon she was in the pantry and snatched a bag of crackers (that happened to be open) , as she ran away she waved her arms and so created an instant mess of cracker crumbs all over the floor.  She has also started squawking in such a way (when she doesn't get her way) that I can only describe it as something between an eagle cry and a duck being stepped on.  All this sounds like it could be annoying , but actually it is pretty funny (depending on how tired you happen to be).

Abby told me a story the other day while I was getting her out of the tub.  She informed me that she had found a "Dora jewel ring" in the tub , but an alligator stole it from her and escaped through the register in the ceiling (she was in the big tub downstairs).  On another night I was playing with her in the tub.  I was a mommy duck and she was the baby.  She told me the mommy duck could not fly because it had "yogurt" in it's wings.  Abby also likes being outside , the most I think, out of all of them.  After we had a snow storm I spent time with her outside throwing her in snow banks which she thought was hilarious.

Sarah is like a blossoming little flower.  She has taught herself how to "spin - jump" and thinks that she should now be a figure skater (often wondering why we haven't bought her skates yet).  She brings up school and wonders why we haven't gotten her a lunch bag and back pack yet (as if that were the only thing keeping her home).  We have been talking about weddings because she has two uncles that will be getting married this summer.  She has decided that she will marry Nathan when she gets older.  The most frequent question I hear from her is "Mommy, mommy?  What can I do while I am waiting?"  - most of the time I don't even think she knows what she means when she asks me.

Nathan continues to be his bouncy crazy self.  Lately he has been fighting kindergarten germs  and has had to stay home several days.  One morning I was convinced that we had missed the bus. Nathan was upset , I was flustered , so when I called him in I felt really dumb when they laughingly told me it was a PD day :(.  This morning I gave him a sticker on his chart because he was so agreeable with getting ready for the bus - he even thanked me for helping him!  Then later on in the morning Mark had to pick him up because he had thrown up in class.  I hope he will sleep well tonight.

After supper the kids often play a made up game that they call "Hannah boy".  They run around yelling/laughing/screaming "Hannah boy!" while Hannah chases after them/runs away yelling "GO". Mark and I try to have a conversation while finishing up our meal (impossible while they are eating), but we usually have to wait until they end up down stairs.  

When I put them to bed I read them books and then we talk to Jesus.  You would think that after 30 something years of going to church almost every Sunday I would know how to pray , but I don't really.  I still find it mysterious and confusing.  We start off by thinking of one thing we can be thankful for (each) . Then I ask them how I can pray for them - usually I get some interesting requests.  Sometimes Nathan wants Jesus to help him to be good so he gets more stickers and then a lolly pop and a new toy (rewards on the chart).  Abby often asks for protection from the bugs that seem to be on her bed at random times .... it used to be a fish.  I have discovered that when talking about "bugs" she sometimes refers to the lady bug toy that is on her bed...sometimes she decides to be scared of it.  Sarah is thankful for her books or her bed and usually wants to feel better or be nicer to her brother (usually she asks that they not fight with her).   Then comes the time where we just try to talk to Jesus ...and no one really knows what to say.  I have to try and be an example for them while it is still new for me.  We also try to listen for a response.  Tonight Nathan could not keep quiet to save his life so it made listening interesting. Sarah commented that she didn't hear anything.  I didn't either but I told her sometimes we are not very good at listening and the more we try the better we will get.  I love those times with them.  Sometimes I think I am learning as much as they are :)

Sarah pretending to be a ballerina 

Hannah even says something like "Cheezze" when she sees the camera 

Putting lip gloss on each other 

Nathan took this in the old house with his camera 

He took a "selfie" as well - I don't have that many pictures of him currently because he is in school most of the day

         

Cleaning up Christmas

This isn't the best time to write.  Half of the kids are still in pajamas ....wait more then half and I'm not dressed either.  At least most of them have eaten breakfast.  I'm finding it difficult to type with Abby jammed beside me on the chair.  This post will take most of the day likely :)

This year Christmas was very fun....when it happened and when it was over.  I still struggled with feelings of stress/anxiety when buying gifts and planning events.  I'm not sure what my answer is to surviving that time of year.  It feels like I fall into a trap of trying to do too much and feeling like I'm not doing enough at the same time.  After all the shopping and budget fussing we had a great time with family and the kids really enjoyed the whole holiday.  During the Christmas break it seemed like a handful of viruses had time off as well and decided to spend some time with us :(.  We got sick in groups of twos ..with me being last (getting sick of course the night before Mark went back to work).  Just today as I'm finally starting to feel better I have Nathan home because he threw up a few times last night.  I'm not sure how sick he is though - he was bouncing around this morning talking about how much he grew (during the night?).  I'm hoping he will get the bug out of his system today....he has pizza day in school tomorrow.

School is going much better for Nathan.  I rarely get phone calls or notes with negative things ....although part of me still wonders school is going well for Nathan ....or just for the teachers.  They have moved him to a different class, citing difficulty with placing him with a DSW using words such as "undiagnosed"  and "unidentified".  Testing someone for autism seems to be a series of steps which could take awhile.  I will not be OK with them moving him to a different class again to follow around the DSW's if this is not resolved to their liking.  Nathan still really enjoys going to school so at least that part of my "mother worry" is appeased :) Now I have that new sex education that I don't 100% agree with (hard to tell ....since no one has actually seen it) looming in the back of my mind (starts in February).  Sometimes I wonder if it would be better homeschooling , but then I think I would have just as much or more "mom worry" - they would just be different.

Sarah is starting to get bored during the day.  I hear "Mommy?  Mom?  MOM?  ....What can I DO?" often in the afternoon.  Mark and I have been attempting to wean her from her soother.  She used to take a nap in the afternoon , but refuses to sleep without her soother.  I feel torn between getting my much needed quiet time after lunch and being industrious - getting her something to do.  I think she will enjoy kindergarten next year (or maybe I will?).  There is only so much "Paw Patrol" I can take during the day, leaving the TV off for a  portion of the afternoon is sooooo nice.

Hannah and Abby are starting to play together more often.  Yesterday Hannah wobbled over (yes she walks now!) to Abby and poked her giggling and then "ran" away.  Most of the time they are screaming at each other though.  Abby still sings and dances for a good portion of the day.  

Cleaning up after Christmas this year seemed to take the whole month of January.  Everyone got sick over the break and laundry turned into an everlasting chore.  :( .  I always forget how much work laundry is when you get behind.  I can't imagine hand washing everything.  I guess we would not have that many clothes :)

Look who is using a spoon! ....when she isn't waving it around

decorating the Christmas tree 

She wanted me to open the Doc Mc Stuffin's case for her....I didn't respond quick enough 

Two tired Christmased out guys 

   

Stressful mornings, extra chocolate evenings

It has come to the time to write again.  I always find I need to write when I have a jumble of thoughts that I want to remember.  Sometimes when I finally get a moment to write them down - they all disappear.

My mornings seem stressful recently.  Nathan has continued to not do well at school and now the school absolutely refuses to do anything longer then two hours until we get him tested. I struggle between wanting what is best for him and thinking they are all crazy.  I made it my mission a few weeks ago to try and get him recess at least but the principal would not budge.  Currently Mark rides his bike to work and I pick up Nathan at 11:00 in the morning.  I'm not sure how long we can keep this up in the next few months (depends on how much snow we get?).  Needless to say we are both frustrated with the way things are turning out.  Nathan's school experience is not what we expected. Things get stressful in the morning as I have to dress and get all 4 kids outside to wait for the bus, then get the remaining 3 undressed (coats/shoes) ....they are not usually compliant....with anything.  Then, when I leave to pick up Nathan the girls are tired and hungry and are usually very non compliant.

 I feel like we have a family full of monkeys.  They are always noisy, messy and ....crazy. When Mark and I attempt to have a conversation at supper time it seems like Sarah chooses that time to impersonate a fire engine (she is pretty good), Abby starts to sing at the top of her lungs, Nathan starts asking a million questions and Hannah starts yelling to get my attention back.  Most of the time Mark and I end up finishing our conversation after they leave the table.  Supper happens in stages.  First the kids are loudly complaining that they are hungry , then we quickly make them something, they are silent eating for a few minutes , they decide that they don't like what we put together for them, they ask for different food/drink/refills/more food ....then they want to get down.....and we are left with a mess and mostly quiet (unless they start fighting).

Hannah, my little monster, is getting into EVERYTHING.  She has figured out how to open my laptop (loves to bang as hard as she can at the keys) , she steals my mouse and chews on it, she can open any door (including the front door), she attempts to eat my k-cups, and she has just figured out how to open the toilet lid :(  ....that is not even half of the mischief she gets into ....those happen most often so I remember them more.  She still hops around on her bum or crawls.  I think she could start walking if she wanted to.,,but I'm kind of afraid of what she will do once she does decide to walk.

The other day Nathan saw that we had made brownies and asked for some this way "Can I have some chocolate rectangular prism?" He had forgotten the word "brownie" but remembered the shape :).  He knows almost all the shapes including the 3D ones (some of which are hard for me to recall) and is very good at patterns.  Nathan excels at anything he wants to ....and the rest is difficult for him.

Abby is a little girl with a very loud personality.  She loves singing.  I at first regretted not having a radio in the kitchen , but Abby soon made up for it. Sometimes I try to sing along with her , which is difficult since her songs are a mixture of Spanish (thanks to Dora) and her own interpretation of words, she either gives me a scathing look for interrupting her or tentatively allows me to join the chorus.  

Sarah has hit her "act and think contrary to what ever mom wants" stage.  She drives me crazy sometimes.  Today I had to give her her first hand slap :( .  She questions everything ....even when she already knows the answer.  She is still my little princess though :)

This morning Mark was amused that I had a short conversation with the dog before ordering him out of the kitchen ....I guess I don't talk to enough people during the day.  I'll be looking forward to painting classes again :)

Ups and downs - but mostly ups :)

The year 2014 has been marching steadily by it seems.  Costco has started putting out Christmas items along with Halloween costumes.  The nights are getting cool again and the birds are starting to think about heading down south.  The past summer has been a constant change for us and it feels like the whole year went by fast.

I am loving the new house.  I love the space , the floors that I can actually clean, the appliances that work well and I love living close to the lake again.  It is such a treat to walk by the "ocean" as the kids call it (I think they know it is a lake but because it bugs Mark - they call it an ocean) . The kids are starting to call our new house "home" and not just "the new house" or at least not protesting loudly when we refer to it as "home" (well everyone except Nathan ...).  Nathan has started school.  I felt so bad for him.  He was so excited and was looking forward to going all year but when he finally did get to go it was too much for him and he shut down (not listening to anyone and eventually falling asleep).  Mark has been picking him up on his lunch hour so he gets a  few hours in.  He has started to like it again but still has difficulty with routine things.  I think he is in a class of kids who have all been to day-care programs and junior kindergarten- they are used to routine/different rules and he isn't .  Hopefully he will get used to it soon.  All day kindergarten isn't good for every kid :(

There has been some unexpected surprises in this house  - both good and bad.  Apparently we will need a new roof as will everyone in this neighborhood unless they replaced it already.  I enjoy the neighborhood but I still miss the older streets - the ones with sidewalks and houses that are all different ...Maybe the lake will make up for it.

Sarah has started potty training.  I have pull-ups for her because she is hesitant to dirty her "princess underwear".  Apparently Nathan told her that she was allowed to pee /poop in pull-ups and no amount of convincing on my part will prompt her to head to the bathroom if she feels she has to go.  Pull- ups are just expensive diapers for her.  I have started to put her in underwear for a few hours in the morning but I forget to remind her to try for the bathroom if I don't see her.  This morning she was downstairs and informed me (by yelling) that she had peed on the carpet - after I cleaned her up she asked me to clean the carpet so she could finish the puzzle .....

Sarah amuses and exasperates me ....sometimes at the same time.  She is a mixture of "sweet manners Sarah" and "shockingly rude Sarah".  One day Mark decided to take her to the old house to get some things - I overheard her happily talking and talking and talking :) She started her long conversation with "Thank you so much for choosing me! "  She reminded me of a  beauty queen making her speech after she won the pageant.  And then there is the Sarah who smacks her hand on the table yelling "I WANT a PINK cup! after I give her some lunch.

Abby and Hannah are growing (although Abby refuses to eat anything...she still manages to grow somehow).  Hannah has some new teeth and likes to use them as much as she can.  She has added to the long list of things she has fallen out of (it was the tub this time and the stairs again).  Hannah is like a scavenger looking for garbage to eat.  I'm always digging kleenex, paper and play-doh out of her mouth. Abby still likes to sing really loud.  The other day she found an attachment for the vacuum cleaner and used it as a megaphone - it was surprisingly effective. The other night Abby told me with a smile that she did a "bum burp " out of her penis.  I told her she didn't have one because she was a girl - she appeared to be surprised about this bit of news.  She decided to be a boy anyway for a little while and then later on remembered that she was a girl.  My silly little Abby - she always makes me laugh at random times during the day :)

I love my family so much :)

First ill fated day of school ....poor little monkey ...he looks so nervous 

Enjoying Abby's little birthday cupcakes 

First birthday in the new house :) 

Opening presents 

Like a Bus Baby! Like a Bus!

It seems like I start every post saying "I haven't written for awhile" .  We have been super busy this summer. June/July was spent cleaning the house for house showings (fun!...sooo not).  Our house is now sold and we have bought a new one (all done within one hugely stressful week) and we will be moving on Aug. 23.  We are getting possession of our new house this Friday.  I'm really looking forward to showing the kids our new house after talking to them about it so much this past month.  I'm not sure they have grasped the concept of moving yet but they seem to catch on to our excitement and business.  I have mixed feelings of moving.  This house is like an old friend and thinking of someone else living in here and changing things seems ...strange.  I met Mark for the first time on this front porch.  We opened all of our wedding presents in this living room.  I stood/sat laboring with all 4 children in this living room and Hannah was born here.  I remember sitting awake rocking a baby to sleep in the yellow room upstairs looking into the closet dreaming of the day when whoever I was rocking would be old enough to wear the clothing I could see hanging (things become much more simplified when you don't get enough sleep).  We have had a lot of fun in the pool (something we will be missing).  But, good memories will follow us to the new house as well.  The new house is close to double the size of this one (square footage) and is closer to Marks work as well as the lake :).      

Today while I was busily getting lunch cleaned up Sarah looked at me thoughtfully and said "Mom, I wish you had pink hair".  I told her I would get some pink the next time I went to a hair dresser - she smiled and kept on drinking her juice.  I love those little conversations, they are the reason I started this blog , I don't want to forget them :).   Sarah is in the "Why" stage now.  She needs at least two explanations for any number of things during the day - often for things she has repeatedly asked about (why are we stopping? It's a red light...Why is the light red??) .  I don't recall Nathan ever going through that stage.  He only asked very specific questions (what does that word say?, what is this for?) or he will ask silly ones like this evening when Mark told him to put the bread on the counter his reply was "What's a counter?" Abby is still a bundle of passionate energy who likes singing...loudly ... ha ha - I hope she still does that when she gets older. Hannah has added a wobble to her hopping and sometimes tips herself over in her haste to get somewhere.

Mark has said "Like a boss baby!  Like a boss!"  when he was celebrating something he did.  Nathan started saying it as well ...but it sounded more like "Like a bus baby!  like a bus!".  When Nathan repeats something like that he often does it over and over and over ....luckily he hasn't picked up too many not so nice expressions ...so far (going to school this fall).

In spite of selling , buying and moving this summer we have managed to have a bit of fun with the kids.  We visit the local parks, we went to Colasanti's , we visited the beach at Pt. Pelee and even made a trip to Greenview Aviaries  :)  I love having fun with our kids.

Abby at Pt. Pelee - She appears to be allergic to sunscreen ....and won't wear a hat

Hannah having fun mangling her lunch

Sarah at Greenview Aviaries

Nathan having fun at a Canada Day picnic